A few weeks ago, I attended a workshop entitled “Your Best Mistakes.” At this workshop, we were told to get into pairs and describe our three “best mistakes” to our partner. One person would tell her “best mistake,” while the other person would listen carefully and take notes. At first, I found this process rather awkward. First of all, it was difficult to even think of “best mistakes.” Besides the fact that humans naturally tend to “forget” mistakes we make in order to avoid the pain of thinking about them, “best mistakes” by definition also have to be mistakes that we recognize and can learn from. (We tend to blame a lot of our mistakes on other people, and hence fail to recognize them as real mistakes). After thinking of my three mistakes, it was also more difficult than I thought to describe them to my partner. After all, describing your mistakes to someone else is like revealing your most vulnerable attributes to others — airing your dirty laundry so to speak. This can be even more difficult when you are sharing your mistakes with someone you respect and you want to respect you (this workshop is often done with CEOs who, as you can imagine, find it very difficult to share their mistakes with one another). Luckily, after opening up, I began to enjoy pouring out my mistakes to my partner — it was almost like therapy. The valuable component, however, was the feedback that we received from our partners in terms of pattern recognition. After looking at my three mistakes, I realized that the common theme running through all of them was a situation in which I put in 90% of effort that was “good enough,” but not great, because I had spread myself too thin. The result was that I did not achieve the goals I had intended to reach. Looking back on that workshop, I realize that what had started out as a very awkward “air your dirty laundry” exercise, turned into a valuable life lesson. As our workshop leader emphasized, successful leaders are agile learners — my advice to all of you then — (and my advice to my future self) — is to fully embrace all the mistakes that you make in your life, and use each and every one of them to their fullest learning potential.几个星期前,我参加了一个名为“你的最佳过错”的研讨会。