My boyfriend and I broke up on New Year’s Day. For two days, I moped around feeling sorry for myself and thinking this was a sign from the gods of what 2013 has in store for me. I walked around Peking University’s campus recalling the memories that we had together – the plays and concerts we saw at the school theater, our first date by the lake, the sweet potatoes he always brought home for me to eat. As pictures of our happy memories flooded my mind, my mouth began to quiver behind the facemask I wear.
Tears streamed down my face and I wiped them away quickly with my scarf. I was walking along in this state of self-pity when a voice from within spoke to me. The voice of my experiences told me that there are much worse things in life to lose than love. At first, I was angry at this voice. My heart felt as though it might shatter into a million pieces at any moment. How can there be something worse than heartbreak?
In my delirium of not having slept and barely eaten for two days, I tried to form some rational thoughts. In my head, I flipped open my book of memories. One page pictured my friend in Sichuan. We’d often spend the weekends at her grandfather’s home in the countryside. During the winter days we crowded by a small space heater in his humble bedroom, where the grey walls were defaced with holes, telephone numbers and names. I watched as my friend handed him sunflower seeds and fruit, only for them to fall to the ground due to the uncontrollable shaking of his worn, tired hands. Despite my friend being a nurse, her grandfather was losing a battle to Parkinson’s because they couldn’t afford proper medical care.
Also in my book of memories, I saw my students in Bazhong, all of whom lost their childhood, their most precious years, to the inside of a classroom. They study around the clock in the faint hope of removing themselves and their family from a life of poverty.
I flipped back to my time in Africa and saw kids who lost their friends and family to AIDS and Malaria, and were likely to one day lose their own life too. On my most recent page, I saw my friends from the Model United Nation’s club at Peking University. Every Friday night, we meet to discuss cases that are presented before the International Court of Justice. As I listen to China’s most brilliant students debate over whether Germany has the right to state sovereignty in its case against Italy, I am both amazed and saddened. I wonder if this club is the closest they’ll come to their dream of representing China on the world’s political stage. I wonder what it must be like to lose the right to have your voice heard.
When I flip through my book of memories, I realize I am so fortunate that my worst problem is losing love. Beijing is colder now that there is no one to hold my hand. The city is lonelier now that I have lost my best friend and my other ones are thousands of miles away. But I keep reminding myself: losing love is indeed a gift.
我和我男友在新年那天分了手。我闷闷不乐了整整两天,并且觉得这
在经历了睡不着觉,吃不下东西的两天后,
回忆完这些经历后,